Just 5 things… Friday Night Confessions

I know it’s not Friday night (or actually it might be by the time you read this) but the title just sounded so right. Kind of like “Love Songs After Dark.” And no, I’m not talking about the really cheesy but racy movies that used to come on basic cable channels late at night.

I’m not Catholic but I often feel the need to confess. I’m not sure why that is. I guess I just somehow feel like full disclosure absolves me of some of my guilt.

(FYI – This same quality makes me a terrible liar.)

So to make myself feel better, and maybe make you feel better by comparison, I’m laying out my biggest confessions.

1. I don’t like Twitter parties.

I know I shouldn’t admit this because I love Amy Lupold Bair (@ResourcefulMom), the original Twitter party girl. But every time I participate in one, it just feels wrong. So many people shouting random answers in an attempt to win a $10 gift card! And many of these people ONLY surface on Twitter when it’s time for parties and freebies.

I do like a good Twitter chat. And sometimes they have prizes. But it’s generally about the conversation first.

2. I sometimes stare longingly at the bottle of chilled Chardonnay in my fridge in the middle of the afternoon.

Let me just say this upfront. I stare. I do not open and pour. But man, do I stare. I’ve had very specific rules about drinking since I became a mom. It used to be that I wouldn’t have anything to drink until my son went to bed. Or I was hanging out with my mommy group and we were all having a glass of wine.

Well, he’s older now. He goes to bed later. I ain’t waitin’ that long. I usually have a glass of wine with dinner. Sometimes I’ll have one after. If I’m feeling particularly wild, I might have one while I’m making dinner. But never before 5pm. It’s a rule somewhere.

3. I can rationalize just about any meal.

A piece of cheesecake? It’s okay. The fat in the cheesecake slows down the absorption of the sugar into my blood. McDonald’s French Fries? You’re allowed a cheeseburger and fries on Weight Watchers. Chips and salsa? Tomatoes have antioxidants and corn isn’t really digested so it’ll just pass right through. Huge bowl of spaghetti? It’s fine. I’m using high protein, high fiber pasta. Anything with cheese? Cheese is full of protein!

And here I am 10 pounds later with a much higher BMI (or whatever that fat measurement is) and I’m realizing rationalization probably isn’t good for my waistline.

4. I waste way too much time playing games on my iPhone.

You know how people eat too much or drink too much when they feel sad, mad, bored, or just overwhelmed? My addiction is iPhone games. I play Angry Birds, Words with Friends, Scramble, Sudoku, Flood It, and many more (mostly) mindless games. I’ve come to realize that it’s my escape. Yes, I know it’s not entirely healthy. Yes, I’ve been making a concerted effort to bury myself in my phone less.

However, I do have 3 stars on every single level of Angry Birds so there’s something to be said for that.

5. I hate talking on the phone.

I was thinking about this other day. I never used to hate talking on the phone. I’m wondering if it’s because we’ve gotten so used to controlling our communication in a safe and secure environment (online). Or maybe it’s because phones aren’t as much fun to talk on anymore. I mean, there used to be a Princess phone for God’s sake. The receiver, while heavy, just felt right in your hand and was perfectly positioned for talking and listening.

Maybe it’s because we have too many other distractions and it’s hard to just sit and talk these days. Or maybe I just have nothing to say anymore.

Well, there you have it. My top 5 confessions. I feel better, don’t you? No? Well, then it’s time for YOU to confess. C’mon. Leave me just one thing you’ve been dying to confess. (I won’t tell!)

  • http://www.loulousviews.com Loukia

    I am not a fan of Twitter parties, either. How much do really have to say about bread? Seems very unauthentic to me. I once participated in an IKEA Twitter party but I was actually excited about that.

    • Anonymous

      I would TOTALLY go to an IKEA Twitter Party. Or Tiffany’s.

  • Anonymous

    I HATE twitter parties. I added a group of mom bloggers then realized that they had twitter parties so often, it clogged up my twitter feed for hours!! So I unfollowed them! Not because they weren’t interesting, but because their chit chat was getting annoying. 😛

    I don’t mind talking on the phone to family and close friends. But when it comes to casual chit chat..I don’t want to talk on the phone! I’d rather text. I don’t know why. Just do!

    Number 3-I can kind of relate. I joined the gym for the first time EVER. I attend a class called Gladiator (Eek!). It’s a hard core, sweat inducing, cuss word flying, huffing and puffing kind of class but I LOVE it. I’ve lost 15 pounds! I’ve also decided to stick to a 1200/day calorie diet. The catch? On my work out days, since Gladiator burns about 700 calories: I can eat fast food!! We are supposed to eat as many calories (or a little less) then we burn in class so I can have a taco if I want! So I look forward to every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday so I can have a chicken taco from Taco Bell 😀

    • Anonymous

      So we’re similar. I will talk to family on the phone but not a big chit chat person. And I also have a little anxiety when I call someone I don’t know well.

      And see? You rationalize your bad food too. It just so happens that you have a much better rationalization than me.

  • http://twitter.com/MommaBeThyName Momma

    Yes. 1, 2, 3, and 5. Especially 5. I do believe we think alike. (No wine in my fridge, though. I just think about it.)

    • Anonymous

      I find the whole talking on the phone thing is very pervasive throughout the blogosphere.

  • http://www.misstejota.com miss tejota

    I like twitter parties. Well, certain ones.

    I feel bad when I miss a Wisebread and/or Eden Fantasys twitter party (that is my true confession). I’ve learned so much from these companies and the people who participate in them. I’m more grateful for the knowledge I’ve obtained than for any of the prizes I’ve received.

    • Anonymous

      Really? Knowledge from Eden Fantasy? I’m not sure I want to know more 😉

  • http://twitter.com/thehhhousewife Claire

    I, too, can rationalize any meal. Hence my growing love handles. I’m trying to get it under control- I want to be able to eat without being paranoid but also not be too excessive. 
    And I have always hated talking on the phone. It makes me really anxious. Then I get nervous and babble (whaaaaaat? me? Nervously babble until someone stops me? That would NEVER happen…). I avoid it at all costs. 

    • Anonymous

      Yes, me too. Love handles. Hate handles. I need to get on the exercise bandwagon. And the nervous chatter? Yes, I’m familiar with that too. In fact, I think I did exactly that today.

  • Ilina Ewen

    I hate Twitter parties too. Nothing about that says “party.”

    • Anonymous

      Not the kind of party I want to attend, anyway.

  • http://www.butterscotchsundae.com Nichole

    I am absolutely with you on the Twitter parties and the telephone. Twitter parties drive me nuts. 

    • Anonymous

      I have been known to participate if I’m sort of requested to. But generally, not a fan.

  • http://tiaras-and-trucks.blogspot.com Angela

    I like talking on the phone less now that I don’t have a “regular” phone to hold.  Talking on a cell phone isn’t as comfortable, and it takes some of the fun out of it.

    I like your list :)

    • Anonymous

      Makes a difference, right? You used to be able to lean the phone on your shoulder and walk around talking all day. I miss those phones.

  • http://twitter.com/_ScooterMarie Jocelyn

    I think there are WAY too many social networking/media sites. For example, in Shareaholic, I have 86 choices for networks through which to share a post. 86?? What the hell? They can’t all possibly be absolutely important. This, though, is coming from the girl who just started using Twitter a few weeks ago. 😉

    Oh, and I’ve never fried an egg. Nope, never.

    • Anonymous

      I don’t know which one I’m more appalled with. Being new to Twitter or never frying an egg. What gives? Fried eggs are yummy.

  • http://lostandforgotten.wordpress.com/ Marta

    I hate talking on the phone as well, I try to go out of my way to not do so. I don’t really know why, it slowly started happening and at this point I’m too engrained in online communication!

    Also we should be playing Words With Friends together. I’m Motus8. =)

    • Anonymous

      That’s me too. I used to talk on the phone for hours. Now it feels so constricting. 

      And I’m coming for you on WWF.

  • http://twitter.com/MyPixieBlog My Pixie Blog

    Well, I am LATE to the party, but I hope you’ll have me anyway :) Just wanted to wish you a very happy belated SITS day and hope you enjoyed your day in the spotlight!
    I kind of hate *most* of the things on this list, too. Except phone chats. I dunno. I kind of love them. I think because they never happen anymore and it’s the only time I can close my eyes and keep a conversation going.
    Hope you have a great weekend!

    • Anonymous

      I am chronically late so it only endears me to you.

      Now you are making me think I should try to enjoy phone chats more. Maybe I should just stop and focus for a bit. I think social media makes us a bit scattered. (Or me anyway)

  • http://unintentionallybrilliant.blogspot.com Roxanne Piskel

    I hate talking on the phone.

    And I hate Twitter parties but ONLY the ones where they are doing the stupid question thing. I like the ones that are just for conversation. Write on Edge’s book club chat is fun.

    • Anonymous

      I’m actually doing a book club chat in November. I’m looking forward to it!

  • http://babywithatwist.wordpress.com KH99

    I hate the phone too.  If my phone rings, I’ll answer, but I don’t like calling people.  It weighs on my mind until I do it and get it over with.  ugh! 

    • Anonymous

      Oh me too! I avoid the phone and I’m so bad about calling people back. You are not alone!

  • Anonymous

    I’m with you on #3 and #5!

    I don’t think I’ve ever participated in a twitter party…because it seems like to much effort for 10$!

    My confession…sometimes I buy candy and eat it when no one is around, just so I don’t have to share or justify eating it!

    • Anonymous

      So you’re a candy hoarder? I can almost picture you hearing your kids stir and shoving every last bite of the candy bar into you mouth :)

  • http://confessionsofavi3tbabe.com Vi3tI3abe

    Yes, Twitter parties can be a blur and a bit annoying. I haven’t joined in many lately bc I haven’t been feeling it. Idk…

    I feel you on that food rationalization there buddy, can’t say no to a french fry!

    And yes, I’d much rather txt, tweet, or FB my friends (with convos going back & forth to the point where people are like, “dude, just call them!”) bc talking on the phone is foreign to me!

    • Anonymous

      I’d say the food rationalization is the worst on the list. Just last night, I was sitting at an airport and ate a big bowl of pasta with 2 glasses of wine because “I deserved comfort food.”

      Seems we all share the talking on the phone preference!

  • Anonymous

    I hate talking on the phone too. I seriously get irritated when people call. Why can’t the hold-outs learn to text like everyone else?!

    • Anonymous

      I mainly want my MOM to text. I can never have a short conversation with her!

  • http://www.mydishwasherspossessed.blogspot.com Kathy

    I am a big fan of food rationalization too!! Yours are great! My big confession is I had never heard of a twitter party till now!! I don’t think I would like them either! It was great to meet you at the BlogHer writers conference yesterday! I’m now following you! What a fun site! Take care!

    • Anonymous

      I’m so sorry that I had to be the one to tell you about Twitter parties. The best thing to do is forget you ever heard about them. Great to meet you too and I think I’ve got you covered too!

  • http://www.hinessightblog.com Hines-Sight Blog

    Love this! We have some of the same thoughts. 

  • http://twitter.com/GDRPempress Good Day, Reg People


    Every one of yours, is a match for every one of mine.

    YES to every single one.

    • Anonymous

      Soul sistas :)

  • http://genieinablog.com. Leigh Ann

    Fadra, I’m telling you, you are in my head. I was just thinking the other night about how much I hate to talk on the phone. I’ve always been that way as an adult. I’d rather text or email. But Friday night I couldn’t even focus on a phone call with my husband with twitter, email, and a backlogged episode of Private Practice in front of me. i actually had a flashback to the days when I used to sit and talk on the phone. Just sit — in a chair or on my bed, nothing going on around me. And here I couldn’t even sit and chat with my poor hubby who I really did miss terribly. Although he IS a bit of a pain to talk on the phone to. 😉

    • Anonymous

      Okay. Now YOU are in MY head. My hubs has been traveling so much and I miss him so much when he leaves and then when he calls I’m all distracted and don’t have much to say. Plus, I use it as my me time (guilt free).

  • Anonymous

    I too hate the phone. I think they whole increase of text based messages has just made it easier to hate. I feel your pain.

    • Anonymous

      I’d rather just get to the point. Which actually makes me a little sad to think maybe we’ve lost the art of chit-chatting.

  • http://www.adventuroo.com Adventuroo

    I guess I should stop calling you so much– haha.

    • Anonymous

      I SO owe you a phone call. I was sorry I missed yours on Sunday morning. I almost sent you a text on Saturday after I was sure your session was over.

      Don’t take it as an affront. Take it as sinking myself in post-conference blues. But I think I’m over it now :)