Yesterday, I posted the funny. It’s easy to pick out the funny posts. But not every nomination comes neatly packaged into a category like humor. So I end up reading all of the posts and trying to find some common themes. Last year, I found a lot of funny, smart, touching posts. And it was easy to categorize them as such.
This year, I found that many many of the posts were very introspective in nature. I loved that. But what I found is that the common theme in these introspective posts was motherhood.
It’s such a complicated thing, motherhood. We love it. We rue it. We long for easier days and private time. Yet we cry as our children get older and give these things to us. Motherhood is an emotion. It’s funny, silly, heartbreaking, beautiful, exhausting, rewarding, and insanity-provoking. All at the same time.
Luckily, these writers stop to reflect on it once in a while.
Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children.
Best Post About Passing Neurosis Onto Children And Why They Will Need Therapy (or not, please, God, make it be not) by Lyz at lyzlenz.com
You can probably only relate to this post if you’re a mother and you’ve ever had any sort of personal anxiety in your life or anxiety about your children hitting every single milestone exactly as the book says. Or both. Which actually would mean that every mother should be able to relate to this post. It makes me want give to Lyz’s little toddler a big giant hug. And give one for Lyz as well.
The Post Where I Make All *Other* Moms Feel Like They’re Good Moms by Michelle at Honest and Truly
First of all, NO, Michelle. You are an amazing mom. Michelle is a friend I met through blogging a few years ago. She’s laid back, easygoing, fun to hang around. And yet, I never knew what kind of struggles she goes through. Her post taught me what I already knew… that even the strongest of moms are human.
The Post I Am Proud I Had The Guts To FINALLY Post by Caraline at Mistress of Mayhem
I generally shy away from controversy on my blog. Which is why I’m including this post on hating breastfeeding. Maybe Caraline knows it (or maybe she doesn’t) but I wrote a post about something similar. I titled mine “Breast is Best but Formula is Okay Too.” Which was another way of me saying that I hated breastfeeding. It wasn’t for me. And frankly, the person that judged me the most harshly for that decision was me. So Caraline and I are kinda kindred spirits in this regard.
The Post That Ripped My Heart Out by Kallay at Kallaydoscope
I know Kallay from her participation in my Stream of Consciousness Sunday. And I also know that Kallay has had an extremely tough year. She’s open and honest about how she’s had to make the journey from married wife to single mother. And this letter to one of her twin daughters shows how even in darkness, our babies can shine light.
Best Open Letter To a Creepy Stranger by ML at I Miss You When I Blink
I like to think of myself as a lioness when it comes to protecting kids. “Mama Bear” sounds so cliche. But ML showed fierceness with her imaginary (?) drama when a stranger entered the protective bubble around her kids. Or should I say “kids”?
The Post That Makes Me Love Being a Mom of Boys by Christine at Random Reflectionz
If I had ended up having two children like my formal reproductive plan had indicated, I would have requested one boy and one girl. Or two boys. Never two girls. I just knew I needed the rough and tumble world of boys. And Christie shows that two boys can easily be just as sweet as girls.
The Best Post To Remind Us That Most Of Our Hangups Are Just That — OURS by Leigh Ann at Genie in a Blog
This was my other consideration when it came to the gender of my imagined children. With boys, mothers teach their sons how to respect women. With girls, mothers teach their daughters how to respect themselves. It’s a hard job and I love, love, love that Leigh Ann wrote this post.
Best Birthday Letter by Jessica at Four plus an angel
I already know that Jessica is an amazing writer. And while this post really is the best birthday letter, it’s really a celebration of her daughter’s life. A life that transcends diagnoses.
The Post Most Likely To Help Vindicate You Of Having To Be A Perfect Parent All The Time by Stephanie at Momma Be Thy Name
Ah, perspective. It takes a while to regain it after you venture into the territory of motherhood. It usually comes shortly after the what-did-I-do-with-my-life phase. Stephanie, perhaps a type-A personality like me, gained a little perspective about what happens when you give up the illusion of perfection.
The Post About The Moment That Made All 246 Days Worth It by Mary at Cherry Blossom Love
Remember when you were so giddy about having a baby that you documented your pregnancy and photographed the entire birth story? Okay. Me neither. But Mary did! And she almost makes it look like we should go back and do it all over again. Welcome to the world, Parker!
The Post About Things I Learned The Hard Way, So Hopefully No One Else Will Have To by Heather at The Destiny Manifest
I’m going to be honest. This one is a little difficult to read. Because you can’t really read it without feeling everything that Heather must have gone through. None of us will ever be able to convince Heather that there isn’t always a fault or blame. But maybe we can all try, if only for the sake of healing this mama’s pain.
Best Bittersweet (sniff, sniff) Post About Kids by Mama Pants at The Family Pants
Here’s motherhood in a nutshell: we want to raise our kids right so they can grow up and then we’ll sob about how we miss our babies. Which is entirely true. I always looked for the next stage, the next phase, the next age where it would get easier and now I’m starting to feel the panic of the babies growing up.
The Post That Still Makes Me All Sad-Like When I Reread It by Krista at Playdate Crashers
If you ever want to make yourself insane as a mother, imagine your child getting married and some person taking your baby away from you. Or simply think about the changes you’ll see at the kitchen counter over the next 10 to 15 years.
Best Insight As to Why It’s Good to Shave a Baby’s Head by Vi at Confessions of a Vi3tBabe
Hate to break it to Vi but it’s not a Viet thing. I feel that I can speak as an expert on this matter because my brother married a Chinese woman. And they shaved their baby’s head three times during the first year of his life. And yes, he now has thick luscious hair. Wondering if that idea would still work or if it’s too late for me?
Best Post To Make You See Your Past in Someone’s Present by Jessica at Too Many Fish to Fry
It’s easy to forget that every road to motherhood is different. Many of those paths are paved with infertility, loss, and adoption. Jessica never forgets her own personal pain as she sees another mother heading down that same road.
The Other Post That Ripped My Heart Out by Kallay at Kallaydoscope
I think you’re always supposed to give twins equal treatment, right? Well, true to form, Kallay wrote a letter to her other twin daughter. What I love is that when I read through these, I didn’t even realize they were twins she was writing to. She see the beautiful individuality in each of her daughters.
The Post That Clearly Illustrates Why My Blog Is Named What It’s Named by Kelli at Momma Needs a Beer
Motherhood is defined by many indecencies, usually taken by us. We head out with greasy unshowered hair, spit-up laden shoulders, and Costco-sized container of goldfish crackers. And sometimes, on top of that, your pants rip.
Best Example of How a Kid is Just Like Candy by Vi at Confessions of a Vi3tBabe
Kids are little manipulators, aren’t they? I know my son’s been doing it for quite some time. But I’m starting to think maybe daughter’s are better at it.
That’s a lot of reading, right? I know. Trust me, I know. But they’re worth it. Funny, sad, beautiful, insightful, sentimental… all part of the journey of motherhood.
Don’t worry. Still two more installments of Blogmas coming up!