There’s usually at least one day of Blogmas that requires tissues. This might be that day for you. But don’t worry. They’re not all tearjerkers. In fact, none of them made me cry but they all made me feel, which is one of the best things a blog post can do for me.
The first six posts are focused on family. As we all know, you can pick your friends and you can pick your nose. But you can’t pick your friend’s nose.
Wait a minute, I don’t think that’s the sentiment I was going for. You can’t pick your family. Or can you? We have the family we’re born into, the family we grow up with, and ultimately the family we choose and create for ourselves. To survive them all, we need to trust our instincts and share our stories. It helps to know we all have a little crazy in us.
1. Best Use of Successful Passive-Aggressiveness in a Marriage by Leigh Ann Torres at Genie in a Blog
Marriage is about compromise. And manipulation. Wait a minute. I think my husband reads my blog. But if you read Leigh Ann’s post, you’ll see that sometimes it takes a little of both (even if unintentionally) to find that middle ground that allows you both to survive a long and happy life together. The truth is, there is no secret to marriage. It’s something that you have to figure out every damn day.
2. Best Reminder to Take It All in Stride by Leigh Ann Torres at Genie in a Blog
What happens when you take kids camping? I almost found last year. We had a multi-family camping trip planned and in my mind, I envisioned us all sitting around the campfire toasting marshmallows and telling stories of our youth. And then my husband had surgery on his neck and we decided sleeping on the ground might not be ideal for his recovery. No worries. Leigh Ann filled me in on exactly what I missed.
3. Best Reminder That It’s Okay to Screw Up Sometimes by Leigh Ann Torres at Genie in a Blog
We carry a lot of baggage from childhood to adulthood whether we realize it or not. We pick up the habits of our parents and our siblings and we often carry them into our own families. Unless we have a spouse that gently encourages a change in your behavior, or something like that. It’s so hard to learn to apologize and once we do, it’s hard not to carry the weight and the responsibility of the world on our shoulders. And now I have One Republic’s “Apologize” stuck in my head.
4. Best My Name is ____ and I am addicted to TV Post by Jill Berry at Musings from Me
After my son I was born, I felt lost. Going from working woman to stay-at-home-mom (which was only temporary for me) was shocking to say the least. I remember watching “Breakfast at Tiffany’s” at least 3 times because I just didn’t know what else to do. Like Jill, I swore off TV for my son until he was 2 years old. It was great. He didn’t care. And then he did. Even though he was born later than Jill’s kids, I recognize many of the shows she reminisces about.
5. The I-just-yelled-at-my-kids-all-day-long-and-now-I-feel-like-crap-but-I’ll-do-better-next-time Post by Krystyn at Really, Are You Serious?
As parents, it’s so easy to get hung up on the little things. And then the little things go away and we miss them. Or we move on to bigger things and we realize the little things really were little. The lesson that Krystyn teaches us here is one that every parent needs to be reminded of from time to time: live in the moment and remember to enjoy the moment.
6. The Oops, I had my baby at home and I didn’t mean to, so let’s just figure this out together Post by Krystyn at Really, Are You Serious?
Usually, I’m like, ew, birth story (sorry, Krystyn, it’s true) but almost every single time I get sucked in and I can’t turn away. Like the time the woman went to South America and sat in an outside tub and then had her baby on the banks of a creek while her husband was filming. ON PURPOSE. Well, this birth story isn’t exactly like that but it makes you remember people been havin’ babies LONG time this way.
Heart and Soul
Families and heart and soul kind of go together. Which is why you’ll find this next set of posts (with some amazing, not-to-be-missed reading) is closely aligned with the family posts. These posts, however, dive deeper. These are deeply personal stories all worthy of your time and attention. And to the writers of these posts, I salute your bravery.
7. The Best Explanation of Beauty by Judy Schwartz Haley at CoffeeJitters
For all the women’s empowerment messages and songs floating around out there, Judy simplifies the message so easily. Beauty is imperfection. If only we could all embrace it the way she has learned (is learning to).
8. The Best Acknowledgement That Sometimes Life Really Bites by Judy Schwartz Haley at CoffeeJitters
This could have easily been another gratitude post. Time to stop and be thankful for all the things we really have. But when you have cancer, it gives you a different perspective. At a time when it’s easier to be bitter than gracious, Judy reflects on how a little acknowledgment changes her perspective entirely.
9. The Post That’s Hard to Read But Was Even More Difficult to Write by Maureen at Scoops of Joy
I feel like I’ve known Maureen forever even though we’ve never met. And watching the life changes she’s gone through has been amazing. Until I read this post and it stopped me in my tracks. And then I couldn’t believe I hadn’t read this and hadn’t supported her. What a brave and powerful post.
10. The Coming Out Post by Maureen at Scoops of Joy
It’s one thing to uncover a deep, dark secret from your childhood. It’s another thing to confront it and address it head on and start to understand the many ways in which is has affected your life. Maureen has a long journey ahead of her but her writing is clearly helping her on that journey.
11. Best Post to Make You Realize That People are Abused Everyday And How You Can Help Them by Krystyn at Really, Are You Serious?
Sad story. True story. Unfortunately not an uncommon story. And certainly something I never knew about Krystyn. I think that’s her point. So many women are trapped in abusive situations: emotional, physical, and even financial. This is an eye-opening post that offers something you can do to make a difference.
12. Best Post for Smiling in the Rain, Even When You Are Storming Inside by Cindy Reed at The Reedster Speaks
Cindy is funny. We know that from reading her funny posts. And even when she’s pouring her heart out, you still have a smile on your face. I love this story so much for reasons I’m not even sure. Other than I love Cindy’s honesty and approach to life.
13. Best Life Goes On Even Though Your Marriage Sucked Post by Jenn Leisey at Doing Wheelies
I’m pretty sure I met Jenn years ago at a blogging event in Philadelphia. And how sad to get reacquainted over a post about her going through a divorce. Although the post isn’t really about her divorce. It’s about giving advice to a friend in a similar situation and learning that her own advice applies to her too.
I hope you found at least one post that spoke to you. I loved them all but if you’re ready for a laugh, make sure you check out the funniest posts of Blogmas 2014 and stayed tuned for the final installment of Blogmas coming tomorrow!