There are plenty of women out there that are totally comfortable with their bodies. I love that. I love women that know and understand their size and their shape and they do an excellent job of dressing themselves in a way that’s always flattering.
Then there are women where it might be more accurate to say that they’re not entirely in touch with their bodies. Maybe they do realize their size and shape and they just don’t care what they wear. Or they don’t know how to pick out the most flattering clothes for themselves. Or perhaps, they don’t see themselves as they really are.
That last category is where I fall but not in the way you might expect.
If you do a simple search on “how many women think they are fatter than they are,” you’ll find a myriad of stats. Some estimate that the brain sees the body as 2/3 bigger than it actually is. Others say 3 out of 4 women think they are overweight.
But here’s the honest truth. I have the opposite problem. I think I’m thinner than I am.
As with most aspects of aging, we don’t really appreciate the characteristics of our youth until after they’re gone. I used to easily wear a size 6 and although I’ve rounded out more with age, I think I generally look the same as I did when I got married 15 years ago.
Herein lies the problem. It’s not just my size that’s changed but also my shape. And it can be difficult to find clothes that not only fit but also flatter.
Last year, I started as an Ambassador for Aventura Clothing and my first assignment was picking out three Spring/Summer outfits. I found a dress I loved in the catalog but found that (surprise!) I didn’t look like the model in the catalog when I put it on. It was a beautiful dress but it just didn’t feel right on me.
When Fall/Winter rolled around, it was time to pick three more outfits and I saw things I just adored. And when I tried them on, all I could see was the fabric clinging to the rolls of fat around my middle that I didn’t even realize were such a problem.
I struggled when it came time to apply to be an Aventura Ambassador for this year. I loved the clothes and the brand and the looks but I liked them on someone else more than I liked them on me. And this is what I told them. Instead of saying, “Okay, thank you for your time,” they offered to help me find the outfits that would fit and flatter.
I ended up with a mixture of clothes that I picked and they suggested. But they look good. And unlike any other season before, I’m always packing my Aventura clothes with me when I go anywhere.
They suggested the Nori dress in Porcelain Green.
I heeded their advice but went with a color that makes me feel more comfortable: BLACK. And it’s super versatile.
I suggested the Tiana top in BLACK and the Arden Capris in white.
They agreed! (Arden capris not shown here.)
I suggested the Savilla dress in BLACK. Pink has never been my color.
They agreed! But I’ll admit that I always wear this one with a jacket or cardigan.
I also ended up with the Baylee Hoodie and Caden Skirt, a look similar to below. I wouldn’t have picked it but I’m glad I did!
As you can probably tell, I’m afraid of color but I’m not afraid of shape. I just need to find the right clothes to flatter my shape. And when I’m having a day when nothing seems to flatter, I can always count on my Aventura accessories. I love their scarves and hats! (And size is never a problem!)
I’m not wishing I could wear belly shirts and cutoffs (that was never my style anyway) but I like the idea of clothes that show a woman’s figure. I’ve just had to accept that until and unless I commit to healthier habits, I might have to adapt my style a touch.
If you’re interested in finding the right Aventura clothes for you, leave me a comment and I’ll email you a code for 60% off your entire order. It’s my special Ambassador discount! And if you have any questions about the clothign, please let me know. One of the Aventura Ambassadors has probably worn what you’re looking at!
I would love nothing more than to have someone help me select my clothing. I know I’m overweight and not thrilled with my appearance, but it’s terribly difficult to find clothing that flatters. I know others who do – and I need to find out where they shop! Most of what I find is created for TALL chubby people, not short ones. LOL I think you ended up with some really great looks this time!
Hello from a fellow short, overweight woman. That was exactly my issue but the Aventura team has women ranging from size 2 to size 16 and they know how to help! Some of my favorites have been the Tiana top I showed above (very forgiving and tunic length) and the Nori dress. I also love a lot of their loose fitting skirts. The Arden capris are a favorite among the ambassadors too. They also suggested the Dorian tank and Zoelle tank. Check out some of their options (http://www.aventuraclothing.com/) and let me know if you’re interested in a code. No obligations! At the very least, the scarves are awesome!
I remember seeing another post on this, and while I checked out Aventura at that time, I thought it was kind of pricey but maybe with the 60% off it would be doable. I’d love some help choosing catalog clothing. Would you please send me the code.
It is on the more expensive side. But the quality is amazing. I’d love for you to try it. I’ll email you a code and you can let me know if you need any suggestions!
Sounds good, thanks! Have a great weekend!
Thanks for the honest post. I have the same thoughts, I always think I’m thinner than I actual am…until I see a photo of me wearing something and say,”Hey, wow I look WIDE in that” or What’s up the rolls?!” I am liking the length on the Arden shorts to cover up a multitude of sins 🙂 I’d love the 60% code.
Just sent it to you. Thanks for your patience! Yes, wide and rolls. The curse of middle age. Hope you find something you like!
I love Aventura clothing but I have had some of the same problems as you. I love the looks in the catalog but they don’t always look right on me. I would love a code and a chance to try some outfits that Aventura suggests! The new outfits look so great on you!
Thanks, Cindy! I’m happy to make suggestions too. I’m learning that’s it better to reveal than conceal 😉 Sending you a code now!
Thank you so much!
Great post & advice, Fadra. 🙂 That striped blue shirt in the first photo looks stunning on you… please don’t be afraid of blue, you rock it!
Yeah, I’m so not a color person but I’ve learned that blue is not bad. Anytime I make a TV appearance, blue is my go-to color!
I love what you chose this time around! Would love to use your ambassador code if it’s still good.
Just sent it to you. Hope you find something you like!!