I hate being categorized. I’m not a mommy blogger. I’m not even a mom who blogs. I’m a blogger who happens to be a woman and wife and mother and that trickles into my writing simply because that’s who I am. And I do it all from home.
So when I fill out surveys, I get confused when it asks for my employment status: stay at home, work from home, unemployed, employed part time. It’s really more of a fluid question these days, isn’t it?
I spend most of my days at home. I have two freelance jobs that are pretty steady contract jobs and I make a little money from my blog (mainly from the occasional sponsored post). And during that time, I’ve learned a couple of important lessons that I thought I’d share in case you happen to be in the same predicament (or are considering it).
1. Get dressed every day.
Sure, plenty of bloggers joke about wearing their yoga pants all day. Lord knows I have plenty of yoga pants that I sometimes wear on days when I not even going to yoga. But most days, I get up, get dressed in what I would call casual (not sloppy, just nicely casual) clothes, put on a little makeup, and at the very least, pull my hair back in a ponytail. If I feel put together, it makes it easier to work. True story.
2. Make lists. A lot of lists.
When I’m working for two clients/employers and myself (which includes some clients on my personal blog), it’s tough to keep track of everything that’s going on. I usually create lists for each stakeholder and then try to prioritize those lists. I don’t get too detailed. I just make big bullet points like “write post about dog treats.” I know in my mind that means gathering photos, editing a video, creating a post, and promoting on my social channels. I don’t want to make my lists too long but I do want them to keep me on track.
3. Use time blocks and rewards.
I can’t say I’m awesome at this but I’m getting better. In college, my biggest burden was reading chapters of Organic Chemistry. And being the poor college student that I was, I would reward myself every 3 or so pages with a few Doritos. Yes, Doritos got me through college.
Same thing in working from home (minus the Doritos). In a multi-tasking world like social media, it’s easy to get scatter-brained. So I try to turn everything off (even Facebook) when I’m focusing on client work (unless it’s directly relevant). When you have so many tasks, it’s important to have a sense of accomplishment. And then I reward myself. Usually with lunch, a cup of tea, or a little bit of Candy Crush.
4. Take a lunch hour.
I’ve worked in so many environments where the idea of a lunch break is so foreign that I feel guilty if I’m not microwaving some leftovers and eating them at my desk. And that same philosophy has carried through to working from home. If I’m eating, I’m doing it at my desk because as a freelancer, time is money, right?
NOT TRUE. When you work in a creative field, you need a mental break. You need time to stop, regroup, and refocus. I love to go outside and get some fresh air. Or simply watch some TV. I rarely watch TV in the evenings because my young son stays up late and by the time he goes to bed, I’m too tired to watch anything. Some days, if I take a lunch hour, I’ll actually sit down and catch up on the latest episode of “House of Cards.” All by myself.
5. Have a designated work space.
I’m lucky enough to have room in my house for my very own office, with a closet full of blogging “stuff.” Realizing that not everyone is as fortunate, you still need to carve out your own space. It can be your side of the bedroom, or a corner of the kitchen table, or a sunny spot on the deck. But there should be a place where you can work and it give a clear signal to everyone in the house that you are working. I especially love working where there is a door. I’m sure you can figure out why.
6. End your work day.
It’s not easy to have office hours if you’re in social media. I mean, it’s pretty much a 24/7 job, right? But it is good to have an end to your work day. My end usually comes at 4pm. That doesn’t mean my work is finished but I usually step out of my office, away from my computer, when my son gets home from school.
7. Be flexible.
If I haven’t finished everything, I might take it up later, maybe while my son is taking his bath or after he goes to bed. But the joy of working from home is that you can move things around. If I’m feeling particularly lousy (like today, thanks Fall cold), I might rest in the afternoon for a bit while I have a little solitude and then do a little more work when my son gets home and goes out to ride bikes with his friends. There’s no set formula, for better and for worse. Try to embrace the better.
Those are the big rules I’ve kind of set for myself. I know, I know. It feels wrong to stop a list at a number like seven. But I’m not going to make up three more things just to have a list of ten. Even though I really want to.
I’m certainly not perfect but these are some of the lessons I’ve learned and I’m continuing to learn every day as I continue on my quest to avoid a desk job. Thanks for your support.
If you are working from home, share what works for you. Maybe I CAN come up with a list of ten with your help!
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Ending the work day is a biggie. I feel strongly about putting the computer away once the kiddos come in at the end of their afternoon, if at all possible.
I like these recommendations, too (below): Wake/work early; drink coffee; take walks. Getting outside for a walk at some point does good things for my productivity afterward.
http://www.theguardian.com/science/2013/oct/05/daily-rituals-creative-minds-mason-currey
I love that link you shared except I am not nor will ever be a morning person. And if you’re trying to get me to blog naked, it’s just not going to happen.
I had a hard time describing my employment status too. I finally accepted that I’m a blogger, but I had started out as a consultant. Funny how fate has other plans for us, right?
I have learned these lessons too. The one thing I won’t do is work without a list. That’s like skydiving without a parachute! I’ve tried wining it but I was all over the place…I’ll never do that again!
I’m learning how to shut down early but I can justify my late nights because I break from 2pm to 6pm for my “mom shift” (ooops, almost forgot the “f” in shift ;))
Great post. I’m sure lots of work from home folks can relate! Have a great Wednesday!
I do the same thing. I break and then I work again. I find my productivity comes in spurts. But you mentioned that you tried “wining” it. I’d save the wine for your mom shift 😉
I’ve been really struggling this year as I still have a little one at home..so I’ve kind of decided to take more of a work-from-home breather and enjoy this last year of her at home before I can really dive-in next year when I’m alone. OMG ALONE!
The weird part is that I work the best in the hour before my son gets home from school I think it’s because I know my freedom is coming to an end and I have to hurry up! It’s important to enjoy kid time but it’s not easy manage grown-up time.
Limit/avoid distractions. If I’m writing, my browser is off. No internet so I can focus, unless the work in question actually involves the internet, which it often does. But I refrain from personal interactions/activity and focus on the task at hand.
I think the hardest thing for me has been getting others to understand I am working. I have people call and want to chat (worst offender – my own mother) during the day. My husband will sometimes comment about the housework. It can be hard to get people to take you seriously and realize you are not just sitting around.
Speaking of that housework – I used to take advantage of my daughter being in school to do things like grocery shopping and other errands. But I have very few hours in which I can work. So, she goes with me after school, even though that is far from ideal.Or I’ll do it on weekends. I do some laundry during my work day, but that is it.
I’m not very good at ending the work day. Or taking mental/physical breaks. I’ll work on those!
Thanks for the great tips!
Yes, you make a great point that I forgot to include. DON’T ANSWER THE PHONE UNLESS YOU WANT TO. I screen my calls. Oh yes, I do. If I don’t have time and it’s not work-related, I don’t take the call. If it’s an emergency, someone will leave me a voicemail.
I, too, have let housework fall by the wayside but then when I’m done working for a while, I want to just relax! I think I need a housekeeper.
Ah, this post is so right on! It’s like I wrote it myself! Working from home is tough sometimes, especially when I’m juggling two toddlers (yay for preschool time), but I love it. The ability to be flexible is so incredibly important! Great post, Fadra.
It’s not just being flexible. It’s being resourceful! When the article came out earlier this year about telling Mommy to put down her iPhone, I love the response that showed that women are getting creative in trying to manage their life and their business by working around their kids and not just against them!
there is so much of this post that I need to put into practice. I NEED TO GET DRESSED DECENTLY every day! OMG I must stop skipping showers!! lol. I also need to take a lunch hour AND I DO have a “home office” that I never use. The TV in there is broken so I plant my fat butt at the kitchen table where my husband seems to think I am “holding court” Thanks for this gem!
Oh, woman. I do the shower skipping thing too because I feel like I need to get to work. When I go to conferences, I’m amazed at how I feel when I get up, get showered, and get ready for the day and I last ALL DAY! If I know I’m going to be pressed for time, I’ll do it the night before so I’m at least taking care of myself. When you feel good, you are so much more productive. Now GET IN THAT OFFICE (she says, as she spends today working at the kitchen table).
Ohhh I hear ya! I was amazed too when I attended 2 conferences this past year and I actually looked GOOD! lol
Oh and I am STILL at the kitchen table! 🙂
The ending the work day part is a big one for me! Working on it. 🙂 Great tips.
Because how do you define “end”? There’s ALWAYS more to be done. It’s more like a stopping point than an end.
Love this post, Fadra! So very true and I did a lot of these when I was still working at home and truth be told? I miss it!
Working at home and away from home both have their advantages and disadvantages. I eat out too often for dinner because I’m so tired of being home ALL DAY EVERY DAY! But right now, I wouldn’t trade it. Just trying to get better.
I worked from home as a salaried employee for 5 years, and I used all these tactics you listed to stay on track. The getting dressed one is big for me, as are the list-making and having a regular quitting time. I still do these things now that I am blogging regularly, but it is nice to be able to move things around/take some catch-up time when the kids are out/blow off an hour or two when I am tired or don’t feel well. Great list!
I probably take advantage of the flexibility too much and stay up too late playing catch up because I didn’t work efficiently enough during the day. My latest task is trying to stay on top of email. It’s neverending!
Thank you for sharing your lessons. I’m a new work from home/stay at home mom and I am totally lost! I’ve never been an “at home” anything and it’s so much harder to get into a groove than I thought it would be. I’m getting a little better on shutting it down when the kids come home but find myself spending a lot of time in my P.J’s. 🙂
It IS hard, isn’t it? You probably have fantasies of getting so much done because you have no distractions. But that’s the biggest distraction of all. You get time to yourself and it’s hard to devote that time to working sometimes! I’m working on it too 🙂
Great tips. I am working on getting more organized with my day so if I do need to switch things around I can relax knowing that it will all get done. I think the hardest part sometimes is the flexibility. I have to build in structure for myself or I am tempted to just float around. .
I’m trying to get much better with an editorial calendar but it still seems I’m always last minute. I give myself a pat on the back these days when I actually have something scheduled in advance!
I have 3 days a week where I am kid free for 3.5 hours, and it’s so hard to decide how onto divide up that time. If I use it for errands or for something I want to do (shopping), I have to work at night. If I work, I have more leisure time at night and can go to bed earlier. When I work, I usually come home, make myself do one small household chore (I have a hard time jumping right to the computer, especially if the house is a mess), or allow myself 30 minutes of free Internet time (blog reading usually), and then I get I work. Depending on how much I get done and how much I have due, I may pick it up again at night. Still working on turning off FB though. Such a time suck.
You know, I’ve had Facebook off for most of today and it’s been a much more productive day. Now to think of reasons why I should STAY on Facebook…
Oh yes. these are all great tips!! The getting dressed every single day is something that I just started doing. I vowed to now take the kids to school this year in my pj’s constantly. I think so far it’s only happened once and it was because the house was a MESS and I was coming home to CLEAN. But on that note it just got cold here and so now that idea sounds kinda meh.
Anyway I’m rambling, my point is I agree with each and every one of these!! 🙂
I’m one of those people that can’t stand to be in my pajamas all day. Even if it’s a sick day. I’ll put on comfy clothes or “workout” clothes with the thought that I’ll work out (I never do) but when I get dressed and cleaned up, I feel like a different person!
Well I wish I was more like that!! I always feel better too but somedays it’s just so dang cold!! 🙂
LOVE your tips Fadra! Especially #6. You’re right too about social media making it difficult to “clock out” due to the blurring of work/personal lines. It’s something so many of us struggle with.
I admit to having what I call #SMFWE (social media free weekends) so that I can really disconnect from the online world, regroup, relax and focus on family, friends and personal time. It helps me feel more balanced.
I don’t ever intentionally take time off of social media on the weekends. It just naturally happens for me. I might share a few instagram photos if we’re out having fun but generally, I like to remember to live in the moment!
Lucky you! Pinterest is my weekend weakness. As I try to live more in the moment that often includes DIY projects and thus pinteresting research!