Why is liking yourself so hard? I know I’m not alone in that thinking.
When I wrote my post last year about self-loathing, I was surprised by how many women said they felt the same way. Beautiful, intelligent women.
It’s easy to say things like
I like my lips
but it’s quickly followed by
but they could be fuller.
We all do it. Someone compliments us Oh, I like your new haircut! and instead of simply saying thanks, we say Thanks. I had to pay a fortune for it because my hair is so fine and thin and it’s hard to find a style that works.
Or maybe that’s just me.
But it’s definitely something I’ve recognized in myself. And as I’m working on a lot of areas of improvement in my life, I’m focusing on two things:
Call me old-fashioned but I’ve always been inspired by the Serenity Prayer.
As many of you know, the change is something I’m working on as part of the Shaklee 180 program. I’m changing the focus of my diet and eating and I’m also making an effort to get more active. It takes time. I’m not as successful as I’d like to be (see my video diary tomorrow) but I’m not going to beat myself up over it. That’s part of the acceptance.
And in keeping with that theme, Shaklee challenged us to an extra post this month. Yes, there’s an incentive for doing it but I’m participating because I need to.
They’ve challenged us to talk about the positives. The physical traits about ourselves that we like and love. It’s not an I like it but… or an I love this but…
It’s just some simple statements. So here goes.
I love this about myself… my brown eyes in the sun.
Brown eyes often get a bad rap. But my brown eyes? I think they look beautiful when the sun catches them just right. Unfortunately it’s hard to photograph because our eyes want to close when the sun hits them.
Now there are plenty of things in this photo I don’t like. But that’s not the point. So I’ll just look at my eye color and be happy.
And then there’s the like. What I like. Again, I can think of plenty of buts to go with it but I’m going to leave it alone.
I like this about myself… my smile.
I’m often told I don’t smile enough in my photos. I actually really like my smile. It’s the buts that keep me from doing it more often.
One final note… as if you couldn’t tell, these are actual, unretouched photos. I resisted the urge to photoshop out all the things that make me cringe because after all, we are who we are.
Now, will you play along? Tell me one thing you like about yourself and one thing you love.
This is a sponsored post as part of the Shaklee Corporation blogger program. I have received free products, online support and incentives for participating in the Shaklee Corporation blogger program. My opinions are my own.
You have a beautiful smile!
I’m not going to lie — I like my legs. After a lifetime of sports, they are packed with muscle and when I get back on the workout wagon after a break, they are always the first part of me to spring back into shape. But they also represent strength to me. Strength to carry my body through a run or even just through the day.
I actually like my legs too. I’m small boned so even if I pack on the weight, my arms and legs generally stay thin (not necessarily strong, though). But I just couldn’t comment on my legs without thing about how they never tan and the spider veins, and yada, yada, yada. It was bad enough posting and NOT saying anything about my untamed eyebrow.
Oops. I think I just did.
I love my hair. That’s always my go-to thing I love about myself. 🙂
Also, my sense of humor. I think I’m wicked funny!
I would die for curly hair. I just imagine that life would be different if I had big hair. Like it would make my personality bigger or something. I love your hair AND your humor!!
I like your smile too! Hmmm as for me, I like my eyes. And after years of hating my laugh (it’s SOOO loud) I’ve learned to love it. It’s part of who I am.
ME TOO! I listen to my laugh sometimes and I’m like, Oh, that’s so annoying. But I love it when people laugh in general. Definitely as we get older, we certainly become more comfortable with who we are. That’s a plus, right?
I think you have great confidence online and in-person.
About myself? I like my chin and I love my laugh.
Thanks, Alissa. Then I have you fooled!!! And now, I feel like I need to study your chin 🙂
Can a guy chime in? My “like” isn’t so much a physical attribute, but a mental. I like that I’m learning to be courageous in my vulnerability. I like that I’m discovering strength in being transparent.
Even men have a “but,” but we’re usually too stubborn and prideful to expose it.
Ah yes. That’s a big part of blogging for me! For the first time in my life, blogging gives me a sort of public acceptance for who I am. And when people can actually relate to the words I write, that’s just icing on the cake.
You are gorgeous! Don’t forget it. I don’t think we are good at accepting compliments, although I’m having to teach my 6 year old to say thank you when people tell her she is pretty instead of “I know”! How things change with age!
I’m not good. I cringed when I read your comment! Wouldn’t it be nice if we all felt confident enough to say, “I know” when someone paid us a compliment? Of course, then there would have to be a lesson in grace… 😉
I think you’re beautiful and extremely photogenic. I like that I am 6 feet tall, and love when I’m 6’4″ when wearing big ol’ heels.
Wow. Now I feel embarrassed but thank you.
And THAT’S TALL!!! I love that you embrace it though. For years, I hurt my feet because at 5’3″ I refused to wear flat shoes. Now I really just accept it. I’m short!
I like my hair. It’s thick and dark and soft. I’ve got to take care of the grays every month, but I’m fine with that!
I have always thought that I was pretty easy on myself but in fact I’m not. I can come up with lots of things I wish was different or would like to change. But I love my green eyes, I love that they go with my favorite shades of green clothing.
You, by the way, have a beautiful smile!! 🙂